The self is not made to be loved; the self is made to love

Sometimes we find satisfaction in self-pity. The reason is that it is our nature to find satisfaction in love; and when we are confined to ourselves we begin to love ourselves, and then self-pity arises because we feel our limitation.

But the love of self always brings dissatisfaction, for the self is not made to be loved; the self is made to love.

The first condition to love is to forget oneself.

-Hazrat Inayat Khan