Ego always blames others. When you are egoless and without vanity, you just see the wrongs you are doing. You see that you are not loved, not successful. You see that you do not have money, influence, magnetism, and so on. If you say that it is caused by the actions of others, you will never discover the real reason. But when you find the reason, or the cause that is within you, you will have found the true answers to your problems. This is how you are going to go through life, not with self-deception.
Self-Actualization and Self-Mastery