Avoid pity. Pity is identification with the weaknesses of people. Do not pity people. Make them stand on their own feet and pave their own way. Pity makes you absorb the weaknesses of the people. Through your own pity for them, they can contaminate you with their failures. Use your love not in pity but in making them help themselves. Even let them suffer in order to learn their hard lessons. Do not make them depend on you. It is observed that through pity one can transfer the sickness of other people into his own system.
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